Day 11 .:: Seperation ::.

Today I want to discuss a sensitive topic that forms a subtle reason why we can't move forward in our personal health or business. It often stops us from performing our personal best due to burden of guilt, anger, fear, and helplessness. Separate yourself from all factors which DO NOT allow you to be your personal best.

Love was the reason why two people or parties come together, be it in businesses or marriage. When the lessons of partnership are learnt, the relationship might go to whole new level of excellence and evolution; or relationship might end. Today we will discuss, how to end relationship with Love.

Love is the ability to experience Divinity in other individual.

Certain relationships are impossible, as it hinders expansion and evolution in one or both parties. Amicably ending such relationship is the appropriate course of action, as purpose of that partnership is tons of life lesson, despite other losses. It is extremely essential that we bear no ill will towards our partner, once partnership is ended. We tend to be unforgiving and unrelenting in our efforts to change habits of our partner. Once the decision to separate is initiated, first effort is to rework on keeping partnership alive, rekindling love, renegotiating, counseling, stop blame-games. However, when every possible path leads to separation, separate with Love.

Remember, our partner has similar fears, similar tendencies of anger, greed, lust, apathy, and
egotistical approach, when facing unexpected scenarios. Most of human logic and practiced civilized etiquette is forgotten when facing the unexpected.

Begin the challenge by seeing divine self in other party. Imagine or feel your partner is reflection of you, with a different perspective. Some negotiations seem utterly immature, aimed at hurting you, because in your partner's mind you deserve to be punished. If you hold on to your peaceful sanity with love; you can achieve more after your separation than ever. Most people confuse themselves with the belief that Love is continuing the partnership. No. This is love with clarity and ability to separate. Never decide to separate when you have emotional states of anger, lust, fear, greed, frustration or apathy. Once these emotional states pass, you often tend to feel regret.

Most individuals have tendencies to unload frustration against people they have a relationship with. This eventually becomes a habit. Like a Pavlovian canine, every time they see someone they love, they tend to unload. Although this is an unhealthy disastrous habit, it can be worked with. Do not confuse this as a reason to separate.

Separation is inevitable when you lose faith in your partner, who refuse to evolve despite efforts.

Separation is inevitable when end goals are different and working together hinders your progress.

Separation is inevitable when your partner resorts to violent abusive activities time and again.

Separation is inevitable when you desire to have partnership with another entity, which your partner do not approve of. (If being promiscuous is your habit, you must sort this out first.)

Choose separation, only when it allows progress. It must be last resort; not an option of our inability to work with partner's opinions.

When separation is inevitable for aforesaid reasons, a fray to "share or divide," legal proceedings are consequential. There is no right way to divide. I have seen a retired army colonel who insists on dividing a chair in half, as his late father willed "all my property must be halved amongst my sons". Some people take pleasure in manifesting irrational sharing to
punish. This makes separation painful and prolonged. Often employees and children tend to be sufferers. Every situation demands unique strategy.

The goal of separation is

1) progress following separation;

2) mental and emotional peace;

3) better control over area of personal influence;

4) better connectivity with society;

5) sense of love and respect towards ex- partner.

Keeping these 5 goals as end point, map your strategy. If holding on to an object results in prolonged legal proceedings, let it go. If giving up large share of your assets now, result in less regular connection with old partner, give it with love. If your partner doesn't allow you to express completely, You exactly know what you should NOT get into next time.

It is possible to separate with Love.

Dr.A